Communication

     Communication is key to telling people how you feel. Communication is how you talk to people and that is how people know how you feel. Though your tone of voice you use it is thirty-five percent that helps, the words you use is fourteen percent, and nonverbal is fifty one percent useful to understand how someone communicates with you. 

    There are five secrets of effective communication (EAR). First is the E, which is for empathy which involves the Disarming Technique- find some truth in what the other person is saying even if it seems totally unreasonable or unfair. Empathy is when you put yourself in the other person's shoes and try to see the world through his or her eyes. There are two types of empathy. Thought Empathy, is when you paraphrase the other person's words. Feeling Empathy is acknowledging how the other person is probably feeling, based on what she or he said. The next thing is Inquiry, so this is when you ask gentle, probing questions to learn more about what the other person is thinking and feeling. Next is the A for Assertiveness. The "I feel" statements, are when you express your own ideas and feelings in a direct, tactful manner, use "I feel" statements, such as, "I feel upset" rather than "you" statements, such as, "you are wrong" or " you are making me furious!". The last one is for the R, for Respect. stroking when you convey an attitude of respect, even if you feel frustrated or angry with the other people. Find something genuinely positive to say to the other person, even in the heat or battle. 

    Relationships aren't going to be easy. They are hard work and also communication is key to having a good relationship workout. If there are problems just talk through it and do not yell and use a gentle tone to talk in while discussing the situation. Having conflict in a relationship is key to communicate on how you are feeling and how to talk, which tone to use and stuff like that. Also, when you are in pain we tend to have compassion towards you and we will comfort you. Also, I think when you are in pain or hurt you tend to complain more and try not feel hurt and talk to people to make it not in your mind. 

    I think that communication to God is also important. Praying and strengthening the relationship you have with God is very important. I think that if you understand how God works and does things for a reason, then you will have a better life and have more knowledge about God. Having a relationship with God will help you with your other relationships with others people. 

    I think that it is important to talk about your feelings about to communicate that with people. And also, when you are talking you need to make sure the tone you are using is correct with how you are feeling, so people will know how are you feeling. Sometimes it is hard for people to know how I am feeling because my voice is very monotoned. I really do try to make my voice have different tones to it but its so hard for me. I do not try to have a monotoned voice, it just happens. Some people have told me that I am hard to read due to my voice, so I think that the way you communicate with people is every important to have them understand you. Also, over text it is hard to communicate, because they can not see your facial expressions.